TEXT : “Whatsoever things are true; whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” – Philippians 4:8.
COMMENT: For mutual affection and love to blossom between a husband and wife, effective communication is vital. Communication is a process of exchanging or passing information from one person to another. It brings about intimacy or peace and prosperity which enhances unity in a home. One of the most serious problems in marriage and a major cause of divorce is the gross inability or reluctance of couples to communicate or talk things over. Husband and wife must always make the effort to speak to each other (and the children in turn learn this). A clear sign of unhappiness is when the couple are very quiet at home but immediately a visitor arrives, they begin to talk. They, however, revert to silence when the visitor leaves.
Experts have confirmed that communication plays an essential role in maintaining committed and satisfying marriages. This is achieved when couples make conscious effort to communicate, express commitment verbally, show affection, share companionship, give emotional support and encouragement in difficult times, show respect or that one’s spouse is valued and important, deliberately create tension-free atmosphere, and such-like.
Some married people turn off their spouses, not because of the message they want to pass but the choice of words, the tone and the time chosen to pass such messages across. There is time for everything, (Ecclesiastes 3:1); and St. Paul admonished:” Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.”- Colossians 4:6; Ephesians 4:29.