TEXT : “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessels, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” – 1 Peter 3:7.
COMMENT: The fact that a man and a woman who are married are from different family backgrounds and up-bringing, underlines the need for the quality for tolerance so that they can live together in spite of their differences. Tolerance should start from the home, in the relationship between the man and his wife, so that the children will copy from them and extend this way of life to the larger society. (Compare John 13:15; Titus 2:7) If Christians are enjoined by the Saviour to relate peacefully with their enemies and to do good to those who treat them despitefully, how much more the persons they are married to? - See Matthew 5:43-48.
For the fact that right relationship with God depends on right relationship with our fellow humans, (1 John 4:20,21; Matthew 5:23,24), it follows that if a husband uses his position as the head of the family to maltreat his wife, his relationship with God will suffer, meaning that his prayers will not be answered. (1 Peter 3:7) A man who honours his wife as “a weaker vessel” will protect and help her and will be sensitive to her needs. He would relate to her with courtesy, consideration, insight, and tact, giving due respect to her, and placing a due trust and confidence in her. St Paul admonished that, as children of God, we should have “bowels of mercies…longsuffering, forbearing one another, and forgiving one another” – Colossians 3:12-14.