“Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man of understanding will draw it out.” - Proverbs 20:5.
A verbal exchange is successful only when mutual understanding exists. To assume that mere verbal exchange does guarantee that effective communication is taking place is wrong. In other words, to assume that in all the activity of talking, communication is taking place, is erroneous. Understanding must pass between a husband and wife before we can say that they are communicating. We should recall that it was the words spoken by Abigail and her manner of presentation that turned the heart of David from committing murder. (1 Samuel 25:23-31) A situation in which a bossy husband simply passes instructions or demands to a passive wife who most of the time has been battered into servile submission is no communication at all. He has merely spoken to a wife. It is only through effective interchange and interpersonal relationship that policies and practices are appreciated and misunderstandings are ironed out, long-term family plans achieved so that peace and harmony are ensured in marriage. Scripture says, “Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.” - 1 Peter 3:8, 9.