“Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.” - Colossians 4:6.
Some people put others off, not because of the message they want to pass but the choice of words, the tone and the time chosen to pass such messages across. Good communication should not take the form of:
Order or command, e.g some husbands are too
fond of saying “Get over here” “Hurry up” “Hang
up your clothes” etc.
Warnings or threats. All too often we hear such
statements as “if you do that again you'll see. I
will deal with you”.
Moralizing – some couple would ask “ don't you
have sense enough not to do that? This is
Too critical – putting down your partner with such words as, “you are a slob”, (good-for-nothing, never-do-well); “see what you are wearing”.
Scripture says: “For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body.” - James 3:2 .