The Almighty and All-wise God seeing that “It is not good that the man should be alone” decided to “make him an help meet for him.” (Genesis 2:18) He then created the woman and brought her to the man, thus instituting marriage. "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh." - Genesis 2:24.
Apostle Paul, under divine inspiration, encouraged young people to marry, saying that “it is better to marry than to burn”. (1 Corinthians 7:9, 36) Many today will readily agree with Solomon the prophet who stated: “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” - Proverbs 18:22.
Purpose of Marriage
As stated in the God’s Kingdom Advocate, marriage was established by God for the couple to complement each other. It was also designed to ensure the procreation of the human race. (Genesis 1:28) St. Paul said marriage is a panacea for fornication, which is common today. (1 Corinthians 7: 2; Hebrews 13:4; Acts 15:20) And because a believer may be drawn into apostasy if his or her partner is not a Christian indeed, marriage between the people of God and non-believers was forbidden in the Old Testament and frowned at in the New. People of God, St. Paul says, should marry “only in the Lord”. -Exodus 34:16; Deuteronomy 7:3, 4; 1 Corinthians 7:39
Marriage is the best way of bringing up children. A child does better when brought up under the care of a father and a mother.
Contemporary means “existing or occurring at or dating from the same period of time as something or somebody else”. This is the age of the last days, when the devil is hyperactive in promoting confusion and turning things against the normal order. It is a very difficult time to remain a true Christian. – 1 Timothy 4:1-; 2 Timothy 3:1-5; Luke 21:25-36; Daniel 12:4, 8-10; etc.
The problems include:
1. Pressures to compromise the faith (to please friends, relations, neighbours, due to ill-health, to get job or keep one, etc.) See Amos 3:3; 1 Corinthians 7:25-28; Proverbs 29:25; Galatians 1:10
2. Funds, how to maximize the use of what is available, should one save for a rainy day or buy now to beat inflation? Proverbs 6:6-11; 2:10-15. This excerpt from the Lord’s Ministry’s 2006 Marriage seminar paper,Marriage is honourable in all” are relevant to this talk. “Money trouble, the number one factor in marriage squabbles – Researchers say 43% of all couples fight over money issues, making it the major reason couples fight.It is important to Work as a team in managing family finances and work toward your financial future together. no matter how much money either of you earns. This is important for the security of the marriage. Even if one spouse plays the primary role in managing the finances, it is critical that both are involved and are aware of the assets and debts and the necessary back-up documentation - whether it be buying a house, getting a new car, investing heavily for retirement or preparing for children. It is important to discuss these goals so that you can both be on the same page and develop a financial plan that represents the interests of both you and your partner. Remember, compromise is an important part of any marriage's financial plan. Work together to set goals that complement your individual plans as well as the future of your household. . It is important to save by cutting down on expenses whenever possible. Also when it’s time to discuss spending and saving habits, investments, etc., avoid doing so at a time or place that would provoke stress or tension. Couples could get help from those in the relevant financial institutions within and outside the Church. They couldinvestigate and evaluate the available options together. In St. Paul’s letter to the Romans he exhorts: “Have full sympathy with one another. …Do not be wise in your own conceits… Aim to do what is honorable in the eyes of all. If it be possible, so far as it lies with you, be at peace with all men. Do not be overcome by evil, but be overcoming evil with good.” – (Romans 12:16-18,21 from Mongomery’s New Testament)
3. Families separated by job requirements: Sometimes because of the nature of modern society many families are no longer able to live a continuous life together. It is advisable that such couples should not stay too long away from each other, lest, as St. Paul stated “Satan tempt you for your incontinency” (1 Corinthians 7:5) They should spend quality time with their families by making good use of the little time they have together with their wives and children.
4. So many distractions resulting in poor or no attention to either spouse – television, phones, games, friends, newspapers, children (breeding jealousy), speaking to brothers, sisters, relations, visitors in your language for long whenever they visit, , thereby shutting out the man or woman. - Matthew 7:12; Proverbs 29:25; Galatians 2:11-17
5. Ill-feelings due to one of the spouses paying too much attention to relations, bringing in brothers and sisters who end up using the house as they like and even “oppressing” the man or the woman in the house. – Genesis 2:24; 1 Cor 11:3
6. Challenge of taking the children from school and bringing them back, house help. See Proverbs 20:7; Matthew 10:16
7. Use of the car – making sure there is fuel after returning with it, coming back in time for the other party to use the vehicle or go out; ensuring faults are dealt with before parking it or at least alerting, etc. – Matthew 7:12; Romans 13:8-10
8. Not showing interest in in-laws problems, feeling they are too frequent. – Genesis 2:24; 1John 3:17,18
9. Not getting pregnant after one to four years – seeking help from orthodox and traditional doctors, coping with anxieties and pressures. Child adoption, husband, dealing with issues of perceived or real cases of extra-marital affairs by man or woman. – Psalm 27:13,14; Psalm 113:10
10. Use of the tongue, answering back, struggle for power, using abusive words for one another, importance of dialogue and of settling issues behind closed doors, endeavouring not to take issues out. Ephesians 5:22-24; 1 Peter 3:1-6; James chapter 2; Proverbs 11:13. -- Proverbs 12:23 ; Proverbs 21:9,19.
11. No divorce. Matthew 19:4-9:Malachi 2:15, 16